is helpful to plan ahead. Know what your loved one's wishes are so that
they are respected. Making funeral arrangements in advance reduces the
number of decisions that will need to be made right at the time of
death. It also provides an opportunity to talk about arrangements,
concerns and feelings.
with the dying person; hold his/her hand. Reassure the person with a
that you are there. Do not speak about your loved one as though he/she isn't there. Hearing remains until the moment of death.
- Identify your self by name. Speak softly, clearly and truthfully when you need to communicate.
- Talk to him/her while giving care and explain what you are doing.
- Sitting quietly at the bedside, playing soothing music or reading
something comforting may achieve a calming effect.
family routines may be disrupted and you may feel you have lost your
ability to concentrate on anything, You may wish sometimes for things
to be over because of the uncertainty, helplessness, emotional and
physical exhaustion you may be experiencing.
such as guilt, anger, frustration or sadness are common among people
who are supporting a person during a terminal illness
are a natural expression of one's feelings. Some may internalize their
feelings and may not be able to cry. Both reactions are normal.
- Good byes are appropriate. Both the family and the person dying may
find comfort in this process of "letting go."
- During this time a member of the clergy, chaplain or a spiritual
adviser can provide support and comfort to both the family and the
person dying. Certain religions have rites or sacraments that may be
desired by the client or family at this time.